How to calm anxiety or worry with 3 calming questions
Sometimes some deep breaths, some preparation and a little perspective can ease a stressful situation
A friend didn’t text you back. You’re worried you’re spending too much. You realise your parents might get sick some day. A feeling of dread washes over you that you might find hard to explain to others.
You’re not alone, though. Anxiety is far more common than you might think (in the US alone, the National Institute of Mental Health reports that approximately 20 per cent of Americans are affected by anxiety).
And although anxiety comes in many forms (from incessant worrying to more severe panic attacks), asking yourself certain questions might just help to calm you down. Sometimes even a little respite from the worry feels good. (Please note: these suggestions are more for those with fleeting worries as opposed to true anxiety disorders. If you’re experiencing the latter, you should talk to your doctor.)
1. Is this really a threat?
In life, accidents do happen, yes. But most of the time, we worry about things that are very unlikely to go wrong. What is it that is making you worried? How possible is it really?
Truly think about that for a second. Allow the practical nature of your question to help ground you.
Sometimes the panic of the moment can snowball, and make a perfectly fixable situation (an infection from a shoddy manicure) feel like a major, life-threatening event.
Our overactive minds can make common situations seem far worse than they actually are. Take a beat and consider the reality.
2. Have I done all I can to be prepared?
This is where the portion of your life that you can control comes in. If you’re riding a bike, wear a helmet! Check that your fire alarm works. Make sure your insurance is up to date. Go for your annual checkup.
